Kanika Blogger -Blogging on issues close to heart.

  If you expect your children to take care of you just because you took care of them when they were young,   then that is the wrong concept and the wrong expectation. You took care of your children because you chose to bring them into this world. That was your responsibility, not theirs.   Because of that, children are not obligated to take care of you. To expect that is to treat it like a business deal. Children will only take care of you if, while they were growing up, you instilled in them good character, morality, spirituality, love, and most importantly, humanity.   Then, they will take care of you not out of duty, but if they truly want to — out of agape love. 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥 Unfortunately many parents have exactly this kind of conversation with their children.Nags, there is saying "children come through us not for us".When they become adults they belong to their spouses or just distant relatives like others.The sooner we rea...

  Sorry, I couldn't talk or wish just now. As I am on my second phase of sacrificial silence and  fasting for a week of the second time. As My Sacrificial Silence n Fasting consist of 5 phases to be done in a year. The phases are as follows:- 1. 4 weeks of 3 days Silence N Fasting- completed. 2. 3 times of 1 week Silence n Fasting - this is my 2nd week 3. 2 times of 2 weeks Silence n Fasting-  4. 1 time of 1 month Silence n Fasting  5. 1 time of 40 days Silence n Fasting. I can text or write and communicate  However no talking as far as possible.  If I do it will break my vow and sacrificial tapa. My obeisance if I anyway cause any hurt or misinterpretation of my sadhana🙇🏽‍♂️🙏🏽

I still vividly remember almost four decades ago,I reported as a junior medical officer in the department of surgery in Penang General Hospital.  During early 90's there was ony one state surgeon who is on call for 365 days and working round the clock. We all know the surgeon with all his effort can't treat all the loads of patients coming to government Hospital.As such the medical officer is promoted to registrar and he carries the burden of treating the other patients which the specialist can't cope. During that time we had a wonderful  sr medical officer who was our registrar of surgery in surgical department,who could do all types of surgery as good as the surgeon. In fact we honed our  surgical skill from him rather than the specialist.Beside he will guide us patiently through the operation, even if takes hours for us to complete. Though we learned most of our skills from him and later we sat for our postgraduate fellowship exams and we passsed to continue our career...

  Today I was listening to tamil songs while working out at the gym.I born in the generation of baby boomer more use to songs with lyrics,melody and minimal background music. As I was shuffling the songs between silent generation to current alpha generation. I was reflecting on the song preference change from silent generation to current alpha generation. It actually made me realise each generation as their liking of songs according to their generations. The silent generation songs are slow more focused on meaning of the lyrics of song with basic music at background.I assume this generation required more motivation to live and survive their daily life. The next baby boomer generation songs have good lyrics with meaning ,slightly fast mode with shallow background music to give a boast to the song. The millennial and Z generation as a fast lyrics with little meaning to the song with number of musics accompanies the songs. However the current alpha generation songs there is no mea...

  Request:- We have decided not to have pets anymore.  Everyone sad at home as Lucky has been with us for past 15 years.  Regards Reply:- Give time and think it over,as give time those grieving to come to understand the reality of life cycle   During grieving phase the emotion will be topsy turvy and roller coaster effect.  Let them settle with time to the lost of the pet. I opine your wife need a good companion at current times with retirement and spending time home alone. If a pet died suddenly at younger age that grieving and pain is a different matter. I agree getting another one to soon will cause unnecessary anxiety.  However Lucky is a ur family member As such we human had accepted it has our part of family.It is bcos of the agape love they give us n in return don't expect anything from us. However with a clause that they will live with us for around 10 to 12 yrs. Your Lucky had stayed much longer even with it's painful old age; as much it can w...

There is an elder nun who is very fond of me. Whenever her small garden of durian, rambutan, and pineapple is in season, she insists that I come and collect a few fruits.   This has gone on for many years. I always make an attempt to take them from her, and I do so with joy, because of her sincere heart to share what she has.   At the same time, it rekindles memories of a wonderful, late, and extremely old nun named Sister Felicia, who was my godmother.   Well, today as usual, the nun told me to collect the rambutans.   At the agreed time, I arrived at the gate where she would promptly come to pass them to me with a cheerful smile before I left.   However, this time I had to wait more than 45 minutes, and after a few calls and messages, she didn’t turn up. As I was about to drive away, I saw a vague figure in my rearview mirror.   So I turned back to her gate. I saw her standing under the shade of the rambutan tree, asking me t...