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How you dealt with toxic narcisisstic colleague during your career time? I too was an egoistic surgeon at younger time but I generally try not to hurt or look down on my peer working colleagues.  I expected the same from my working colleagues but unfortunately in surgical working field, we may get one or two, who can be very mean. I  generally believed in working as a team and peers as an advantage to me because, if not I had to do the job as a single surgeon which is much more stressful. Beside my mentor, Mr Ismail had told me that never threaten or scare another surgeon away from working as a team, if not the burden of work will be doubled. So I try, my level best to work within my own boundaries and that,it doesn't clash with the other surgeon. However in spite of all my efforts if I have still burdensome peer working surgeon.Then I maintained an imaginary  working circle around me. If anyone enters that circle,  I will express my displeasure to the individual or ...

  MY OBSERVATIONS  I want to share my few experiences in the gym today. It is though funny to me but a good point to ponder of current world. As it looks like I am or we are in a new world. First I saw one young guy spending nearly 3 hrs in gym or more in fact. However almost 2 n half hrs or more on the smartphone rather than exercising. The reason I said that bcos  in a set of anabolic muscle exercise,we do three raps for each set of exercise or maximum can go upto five raps.Before each raps, he is on the phone for almost 15 to 20 minutes. I am sure he is going to tell his friends and family he was 4hrs in gym but hardly doing any proper exercise even for  1/2 hr for the duration of time he spent in gym. The second observation was I  saw most of the youngsters at the gym are with their mobiles while exercising. At every five or ten minutes of their exercise they revert to the mobile.It looks like a trend of current generation, smartphone becomes their almost i...

  If you expect your children to take care of you just because you took care of them when they were young,   then that is the wrong concept and the wrong expectation. You took care of your children because you chose to bring them into this world. That was your responsibility, not theirs.   Because of that, children are not obligated to take care of you. To expect that is to treat it like a business deal. Children will only take care of you if, while they were growing up, you instilled in them good character, morality, spirituality, love, and most importantly, humanity.   Then, they will take care of you not out of duty, but if they truly want to — out of agape love. 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥 Unfortunately many parents have exactly this kind of conversation with their children.Nags, there is saying "children come through us not for us".When they become adults they belong to their spouses or just distant relatives like others.The sooner we rea...

  Sorry, I couldn't talk or wish just now. As I am on my second phase of sacrificial silence and  fasting for a week of the second time. As My Sacrificial Silence n Fasting consist of 5 phases to be done in a year. The phases are as follows:- 1. 4 weeks of 3 days Silence N Fasting- completed. 2. 3 times of 1 week Silence n Fasting - this is my 2nd week 3. 2 times of 2 weeks Silence n Fasting-  4. 1 time of 1 month Silence n Fasting  5. 1 time of 40 days Silence n Fasting. I can text or write and communicate  However no talking as far as possible.  If I do it will break my vow and sacrificial tapa. My obeisance if I anyway cause any hurt or misinterpretation of my sadhana🙇🏽‍♂️🙏🏽

I still vividly remember almost four decades ago,I reported as a junior medical officer in the department of surgery in Penang General Hospital.  During early 90's there was ony one state surgeon who is on call for 365 days and working round the clock. We all know the surgeon with all his effort can't treat all the loads of patients coming to government Hospital.As such the medical officer is promoted to registrar and he carries the burden of treating the other patients which the specialist can't cope. During that time we had a wonderful  sr medical officer who was our registrar of surgery in surgical department,who could do all types of surgery as good as the surgeon. In fact we honed our  surgical skill from him rather than the specialist.Beside he will guide us patiently through the operation, even if takes hours for us to complete. Though we learned most of our skills from him and later we sat for our postgraduate fellowship exams and we passsed to continue our career...

  Today I was listening to tamil songs while working out at the gym.I born in the generation of baby boomer more use to songs with lyrics,melody and minimal background music. As I was shuffling the songs between silent generation to current alpha generation. I was reflecting on the song preference change from silent generation to current alpha generation. It actually made me realise each generation as their liking of songs according to their generations. The silent generation songs are slow more focused on meaning of the lyrics of song with basic music at background.I assume this generation required more motivation to live and survive their daily life. The next baby boomer generation songs have good lyrics with meaning ,slightly fast mode with shallow background music to give a boast to the song. The millennial and Z generation as a fast lyrics with little meaning to the song with number of musics accompanies the songs. However the current alpha generation songs there is no mea...